WHEN WE BECOME SO ENGROSSED IN OUR HEALING JOURNEY THAT WE CAN NO LONGER SEE THE WOODS FOR THE TREES WE CAN BECOME CONFUSED, FRUSTRATED AND DISILLUSIONED WITH OURSELVES INVITING MORE COMPLEX ISSUES INTO OUR LIVES. 

It is in the nature of creative people to want to explore, experiment and experience more of life. We are more inclined to become invested in our ideas as we are more inclined to be invested in ideas of a deeper meaning in life. As deep feeling, sensitive or creative people we can be drawn into the relief, soothing or freeing sensations different healing practices can bring us and the excitement, interest and perks we get from trying new things and indulging our imagination. We can go from trying many things to being totally engrossed in certain practices as they become habits, crutches or lose their helpful potency. 

We can become addicted to the support we find in codependent relationships, addicted to the process of healing, obsessed with the idea of getting better and better striving to reach unobtainable imagined levels of human perfection or states of perpetual bliss that are not realistic. It's hedonistic in its nature, the desire to always be high, or relaxed, or happy which is not based in the reality of a grounded, varied, fulfilled human experience.

This type of deep healing journey can feed many aspects of the creative mind, bringing us interest we crave. The danger is that we can be pulled into the journey so much so it can take us away from practical work causing financial or housing problems. It can separate us from friends, socialising and public interaction as we take time to deeply introspect. It can attract us away from our family leaving us isolated. Issues like additional social anxiety, depression and developing fundamentalist beliefs or hateful intolerance can arise. It can leave us in an endless cycle of needing more and more healing and never finding peace or wellness or feeling enough as we are. 

The journey, experimentation can become expensive and can cost us time, money, energy and our focus. The expense means we can become attached to the idea of outcomes from the journey. We see there is value in taking this time and doing healing work, particularly for creatives, especially introverts. The healing of troublesome wounds and understanding our mind and personal expression can be how we forge our own path to security without past connections. It becomes vital to us for it to succeed when our reality becomes one of aloneness and self sufficiency. 

Creative people can often been adaptive, especially those who have experienced relational trauma and who are practiced in codependent relationships. They can change and morph themselves into the type of person these modalities attract. Adopting the personality of the ideal client of these services in exchange for what we see as love, care or acceptance. The modality or even the healing journey itself can feel like a part of our identity and how we show up in the world. 

In some cases we can invest in it so much we take it on as our calling, make it a career or change our entire lifestyle to suit the healing solution we most resonate with. This is fine, it has a part in society since it is how we pass knowledge to each other, but the problem comes when we are so attached to it we can't see beyond it and now we are actually invested in the need for that healing modality it exist; for ourselves and others. 

We might want to encourage other people to think they need the kind of healing we offer and position it as “the” answer to their problems (a form of manipulation). This is also where western pathology and medial labelling gets stuck. By labelling and requiring people to need the service we offer we energetically require people to need healing. It is the epitome of the placebo effect. Because we believe we are [insert diagnosis or modality here] we become that. Or because we believe this worked for us it must work for everyone. Especially when we identify with it, benefit from that identity point and need it to survive (financially or socially). 

If this is something we are stuck on it actually limits us and our evolution keeping us addicted or reliant upon it, as well as others potentially. It keeps us in a place of requiring more and more healing. It ignores the reality that people change, move on and can heal. It ignores the laws of nature by creating a need within us that can not be filled by the practice itself any more but endlessly perpetuates. Even if a healing journey is part of ur lives,important to our growth and necessary for us, devoting our entire lives seeking healing only attracts more to heal from. 

Ultimately healers, therapists or people on a healing journey, in order to have a modality be successful, it really needs to want to run out of clients/patients or for the need for the modality to be resolved; we need to be able to walk away when it does not serve us or has done it's job. This means our investments need to always be considered as we grow. 

In order to solve this cycle we need to look at ourselves, our behaviour and the practices we have tried with considered discernment. Become the gardeners of our experience and with consideration and wisdom learn what to feed and what to prune. It requires bravery and a perspective of distance, consideration and logical reasoning as well as an honest dive into the feeling and psyche behind what is being created by it all. 

The solution I have found is to naturally allow things I don't resonate with to fall away. I use self inquiry to evaluate why I am doing what I am doing and define the source of the drive to do it. I also regularly plan and make time to consider, reflect upon what I am practicing, offering or investing in and regularly let go or amend what no longer serves me, my healing or my purpose. It is part of my life design process. If I don't do this I have found life, the universe or fate (however you might refer to it) will intervene and remove what is not helpful or necessary from my life regardless and often in a much more shocking or jarring way. 

Considering where we might feel confused or anxious in our healing journey, when we feel stuck, unsuccessful, frustrated or disappointed in life can be mended through taking the time to reflect on what does and what doesn't help. Asking what has been supportive you and why, analysing when it became obsolete, accepting that reality and be open to change and moving on. This can be the secret ingredient into feeling more confident and expressive in your life. 

Being open to responding to what is presently relevant is where we can feel and live more authentically aligned to our innate creative nature. Feel the freedom and wellness that we have always longed for. We can do this alone or with the support of someone objective who is not attached to their own healing modality. 

In my Mama Bear Mentorship programme releasing confusion around your healing journey is one of the main things I help creative people recovering from trauma, addiction or ill health to figure out in order to go from anxious and disappointed to free and expressive. We also work on clarifying boundaries and creating a life design. If you want to know more about this six month programme send me a message if you're interested and we will have a chat to see if it's a fit.