I have noticed that often, the more we feel lacking in ourselves, our lives and our relationships, the more we want to extract, take and use from the Earth, others or life. It can create such a deep sense of unease that it can even manifest as dis-ease in the body and mind. As a culture in the modernised world, we have been conditioned to prioritise more. Our worth, value and competence and social status all rest upon what we acquire or achieve professionally, financially and even personally or socially. 

We have created a checklist of success that rarely fully considers the impact on our health, fulfilment or inner harmony. 

Understanding the truth of our existence, that we are not limited by mind or spirit, can be liberation. It offers a promise of boundless potential that we can explore, be or experience. In one sense, all is possible; there are no limits to the options we have available, the goals we might strive to achieve or the lifestyle we might aim towards. 

But as humans, we are limited by our bodies, time and the natural resources of Earth. Too much striving without balance or beyond the limits of our energy capacity can leave us stressed, anxious or burned out. Not feeling enough, and not knowing where our true value lies. Especially when we are faced with failure, disappointment or circumstances that challenge our ideas or beliefs. 

When we find a harmony between these two states of truth, it can bring a sense of peace and balance to life. 

Many other support services overlook this contrast, and they often pick up and put down these realities and present them as two separate things, choosing a reality we must abide by, both limiting us and opening us to any available possibility, without exploring the benefit of living within a conscious choice of limitation. 

When we hold states like this, we can end up causing a split in our psyche (called cognitive dissonance), which stops us from changing, evolving or keeps us stuck. 

For example, we might believe we are unable to grow, heal or change our mind because we also believe our physical body and brain are limited and fixed. But in reality, not all conditions of the brain are fixed, neuroplasicitcty allows us to heal many disorders associated with mental health. Our thoughts, which create our mental capacity, our beliefs, and the ideas that shape our subconscious, can be changed. We can think or believe anything.

We might know this, but not apply it to ourselves or our condition. So we stay stuck, we struggle with states of being, conditions or experiences that could be changed when we allow ourselves to accept the wider truth of our human experience. 

I also notice how some people will choose one or the other of these realities and hold on to it so tightly they end up gaslighting people, denying the reality of human experience. Especially in coaching services for business, spiritual coaching, and even health coaches. The idea of abundance and infinite potential means it is possible to live outside of our limits, which can cause great disharmony in the body. They want to assume all and everything is possible, at any time to any amount, ignoring naturally presenting limitations, variations or boundaries and the required processes of evolution, change and time. 

From my experience, I know healing is possible and over the years of my life, I have changed my mind, identity, capacity and capability many times. But I also have experienced the opposite. Where I have been and felt stuck, been unable to change and have been limited by myself, others or life circumstances for periods of time that simply would not shift or move just because I wanted it to. 

Healing and recovery are processes that happen naturally and are part of a bigger picture we can’t always see and control. 

We have a comfort zone for a reason! Our ego can, of course, be crushed or dashed, and we can find it or our life circumstances change or crumble in a moment of change, forcing us to adapt, expand or evolve to meet the challenge of it. 

But in nature, we don't see any other creature striving to live beyond its capabilities. Animals will meet their potential due to the need or requirement of circumstances; it is perhaps only humans that have a desire to do or be more intentionally. 

Other forms of nature live either surviving or struggling when they are not aware of or capable of embodying other potentials, or thriving when existing within the limitations of their bodies and environments. They trust the process of their nature. They grow when they need to grow, rest when they need to rest, invest effort when it needs to be invested, move when they need to move (if they can), reproduce when they can reproduce, and die when life takes them or let go when they are ready to die. 

The forgetting of how to live within our nature is often the root cause of so much of the suffering within the human condition. Especially in the modern world, most of us do not need more things that don't feed our body, mind or soul. 

We do not need endless possessions, more and more tech, plastic tat, brand new clothes every season, businesses to grow ever more to feed our spirit. More holidays aren't going to soothe your weary soul. A new car isn't going to feed the spirit within you that is fading beyond, perhaps a fleeting rush of success that leaves us soon back to where we were before. 

Once we hit that sweet spot where we find the balance of comfort and growth, we need to simply maintain that space in a natural expansion and contraction that is aligned with our energy and need. That is how our lives become richer. When we nurture our life within the limitations of our body, within the integrity of our spirit and within the comfort of our understanding, we can thrive. 

That doesn't mean we don't grow when required, when the season is right for us, but it does mean we don't strive for constant growth. It doesn't mean we stay stuck and small and never bloom or enjoy what we love in life for fear of taking or being too much. It is about understanding we all have cycles that nurture our best self and honouring that is how we find the wellness we crave. We stop needing to double our income and might instead choose to downsize to enjoy more freedom or disposable income in our lifestyle. 

Growth and expansions isnt wlays the answer, sometimes the freedom we crave is found in being happy with less and letting go of more. 

We find this place through honest observation, using self-enquiry and being present. By tuning into our reality in a new, aware, observant and non-judgemental way. By exploring our deepest desires, the meaning we give to things and the meaning we want our life to have. 

We use this intention to plan and create a structure that allows us to flow in a natural and easy way, aligned with our way of being. We can stretch ourselves; at times, it is necessary to accommodate new circumstances or maintain our health and wellness. But a healthy, maturing growth rather than a striving for endless goals that require us to be more than what we are intended or need to be. 

When we provide both the support and the freedom we require to thrive, we look at the practical, physical and the deeper aspects of self.  This balance can be obtained using simple tools and techniques to develop skills which serve us for the rest of our lives. 

Love School support uses ecosystem mindset, shadow work and life design to offer a holistic approach to learn what we need to find this balance. 

• This might mean allowing our emotions to surface and learning what is driving our need for more or fear of letting things go.

• It might mean retraining our thought patterns and reconditioning our mind, challenging our beliefs to allow us to feel safe enough to stay the same or even choose to have less.  

• It might require some somatic exercise to release the deeply held tension our nervous system has been repressing past trauma and pushing us to keep doing more.  

• It might mean deep introspection to set intentions that serve our soul's desire rather than our ego's objectives. 

• It may include developing practices to calm our mind, connect with our body and observe ourselves with clarity and honesty, being fully present and connected to who we are, where we are and what we are experiencing now. 
  

Each journey is slightly different and will require different responses, but it is only by taking the time to notice the subtle indicators and markers of our limits and respond accordingly that we can discover what needs our attention. 

Our presence and attention are the most powerful tools and gifts we have that soothe us. Not more stuff, not needing and demanding more from life or the Earth or taking more than our fair share. Being able to exist in the moment as it presents to us and use that to choose our next steps wisely. 

Being able to hold ourselves with confidence within limitations and boundaries that keep us safe and well, and being comfortable enough to see where growth is no longer required, builds a more established and secure foundation for our sense of self. 

When we know we are enough and choose growth that is internal and spiritual, or to gain character rather than accumulate the desires of our ego self, we find more fulfilment and peace than endless striving offers us. 

Additional Support

At Love School, we encourage and make space for a healing journey to unfold by connecting with and following our natural intuition and aligning with wellness, naturally.  

The Daily Wellness Flow offers a process of self-care with guided, practical steps daily that allow you to follow a life design process. We connect with nature, pay attention to yourself as you nurture, and meet needs, and we focus on good habits, better health and overall, holistic well-being for a more stable, balanced lifestyle.

The process is specially designed for beginners and is an introduction to natural, holistic recovery.

Our Curriculum Bundle offers access to the entire content range for you to explore at home at your own place. 

Our Community Membership subscription also includes a private community space, invitations to our exclusive events, and regular online support when you need it. 

If you are looking for personalised support, this is what The Art of Enough Mentorship helps with.

The six-month programme is focused on finding that balance of being enough, having enough and growing enough. We find this space where one can exist in the peace of maintenance and nurture, and protect it. 

One of the ways my Mentorship is different to most coaching, and especially The Art of Enough, is how deeply rooted it is in my Permaculture ethics and principles. I essentially use the same type of thinking, planning and process to create the programme and to support the journey within it. My care for the environment and the ethics of Earth Care, People Care and Fair Shares is at the heart of this idea of exploring “Enough”. 

I also support figuring out how to get there, identifying values, creating or expanding our limits suitably for our experience (based in radical honesty) and clearing what blocks and stops this peace from emerging.